10 Annoying Things Guests Do - But Shouldn't {San Diego Wedding Photographer}

Maybe you think you know everything about wedding etiquette, but I guarantee that there are many offenses that guests don't realize they're committing when they attend friends' and family members' nuptials. To make sure you don't make a major snafu, heed this list of the worst social crimes a wedding guest can commit.

1.Wear white. Sure, wedding gowns these days can be blush or even black. But, even if the bride isn't wearing white, that doesn't mean you can. And if you know that the bride is wearing a color other than white, try not to don a dress of the same exact shade. This is her day, after all.

2. Crash the bride's room. The second most common faux pas I see is when friends outside the immediate bridal party crash the bride's dressing room just to wish her well. The gesture is absolutely gracious -- but the timing isn't. If you weren't invited to hang out with the bride while she gets ready, wait to share your congratulations at the wedding.

3. Misuse your smart phone. If it were up to me, everyone would leave his or her smartphone at home when attending a wedding. From guest snapping photos during the ceremony instead of paying attention to the moment, to posting photos of the bride and groom on social media without asking, guests tend to use smart phones in ways that are disruptive and rude. If you can't part with your technology, at the very least turn the ringer off for the ceremony.

4. Change your seat. Many guests look through the seating cards to find out who else is sitting where. Figuring out a seating plan was a difficult enough process for the bride and groom and having to deal with musical chairs (or requests for a change) is just too much when they're trying to enjoy their special day..

5. Make side comments during speeches. One of the most annoying thing guests do is not pay attention while speeches are being made and continue to chatter, making it difficult for those that care to listen. When it is speech time: HUSH! Yes, that also means keeping your whispered comments and commentary to yourself until after the speeches have ended.

6. Swap your food order. Usually you are asked for your meal preference on the RSVP. This is for a reason: The caterer or hotel requires a pretty close to accurate count of who's eating what so that they may order the correct quantities. I have attended many weddings where someone decides that they like what the guest next to them was presented with and they "change their order," leaving a person with dietary restrictions without their meal of choice.

7. Complain about minimal costs. While the bride and groom are your hosts for the evening, they may not be able to cover every single cost, such as parking at their venue. Granted it is a gracious offering when there is no charge, but in the event the wedding you attend has not arranged for paid parking, please do not make negative comments. Each person has their own set of priorities and budget -- if you are close enough to be invited and attend the wedding, then you should be respectful and not make negative or hurtful comments.

8. Drink too much. Weddings are celebrations and many take place on a Friday or Saturday evening so no one is inclined to leave early. But this also gives leeway to imbibing a bit too much. Don't get sloshed and try to drive home. The bridal party doesn't want to manage your lack of management -- they want to stay and enjoy the fun! (This is when services like Uber comes to the rescue.)

9. Grab décor. Table decorations belong to the rental company that provided them unless otherwise indicated. Guests that walk away with decorative votives or pretty napkin rings don't realize that the bride and groom will be charged for these items when the total count is not returned.

10. Hang around too late. Even if there's an afterparty that ends wee into the morning hours, at some point, the bride and groom want to have some alone time. Therefore, don't begin an impromptu after-afterparty in their bridal suite or try to convince the groom to continue on at a bar that opens at 6 a.m. The party is over when the bride and groom say it is - respect that.

Article Credit: 

Renee Strauss   - Bridal stylist, star of "Brides of Beverly Hills"

The "First Look" from a BellaDiva Bride's perspective {San Diego Wedding Photographer}

Kris & Eric were married a couple of weeks ago and they chose to have a "First Look". Kris was kind enough to take some time and tell us why they chose the First Look route and why you should do the same. 

Reasons for having a "First Look" on your wedding day:

• It helps with the logistics of your wedding day
• It gives you the chance for a special bonding moment. 
• Relieves your nerves
• More time for photos
• You can spend more time with your guests after the ceremony. 

Tips for looking fabulous in your wedding pics !! {San Diego Wedding Photographer}

Your wedding day is approaching. And that means that pretty soon someone is going to be snapping a boatload of pictures of you and your beloved. Are you prepared?

Having a camera aimed in your direction for hours on end isn’t something you’re used to – unless of course you’re a hotshot celebrity. Do you know how to look your best for the camera? Wedding photographers across the country were asked for some insider tips on how to look fabulous. Here’s what they had to say:

Just Be You

1. Be Yourself. Don’t try to look or be anything other than yourself. If you are self-conscious about a certain thing and it manifests itself physically, it will ultimately come through in the photography … Be your best self and you can ensure that the photos will indeed portray you as your best self. - Canlas Photography

2. Relax. We’re often our worst critics when it comes to pictures. Remember that you want to be seen the way others see you too. While you want flattering photos, you want to make sure that it still looks like you in the pictures.- Shane Snider Photography

3. Laugh! It’s flattering on everyone. - Melissa McClure Photography

4. Think about the moment. Capturing the romance of the day, the emotion, excitement & intimacy is what it’s all about. Don’t look at your photographer, look at your new spouse and savor it all. Your photographs will be amazing & true. - Kate Harrison Photography

5. Forget the camera is there and try your best to be playful and warm. - Sarah Rhoads Photographers

6. Have an engagement session. This is so valuable for client and photographer. The clients have an opportunity to relax and be in front of the camera and the photographer can get to know his or her clients. By the time I am at the wedding we are friends and this makes everyone more relaxed! - Susan Adler Photography

Get the Look

7. Practice in the mirror! Study your face and figure out the best smile (or maybe you like your serious face better) and angle for you. - Melissa McClure Photography

8. Be comfortable. For engagement and portrait shoots, wear clothing that is flattering, but comfortable too! If your 6 inch stilettos are hurting your feet, it will show in your face! - Melissa McClure Photography

9. Keep makeup and eyelashes normal and classic. - Steve Dohring, Photographer

10. Mind the lens. Try to not allow one part of your body to be closer to the lens because it will make that part appear larger than the rest of your body. - Corey Ann Photography

11. Get in position. To make your neck look more elongated, drop your shoulders and raise your chin. Imagine that you are being pulled by a string from the top of your head. - Corey Ann Photography

12. Be prepared. If you are prone to have flyaways or random frizzies in your hair, have a toothbrush with hairspray on standby! One squirt and swoop will tame most frizzies and help your hair look super smooth for pictures. - Corey Ann Photography

13. Have white chalk handy. White chalk hides stains on wedding gowns. If you are worried about grass stains, general dirt or in case there is a spill on your wedding day, make sure to have some on hand! It works in a jiffy and no one will know but you! - Corey Ann Photography

14. Dab. If you are planning on getting married in the summer and want outdoor photos, oil dabbing strips are a MUST HAVE! Make sure the groom has a hanky too. Sweaty photos are not pretty! - Corey Ann Photography

 Strike a Pose

15. Not head on. To look thinner, keep your shoulder to the camera and avoid facing the camera straight on. Hide behind the groom a bit or tuck into his armpit to slim yourself down. Steve Dohring, Photographer

16. Don’t look down. To avoid a double chin, have the photographer shoot from above the eye/face level. Tilt the head a bit sideways to hide the chin and have the photographer avoid shooting from the side. (I also remove as much of the double chin as possible in editing with Photoshop.) - Henry Chen Photography

17.  Hand on hip. Every girl feels insecure about her bare arms in a strapless dress. The remedy? Instead of the arm laying flat against the torso and making it look wider, simply toss the hand on the hip. It will make the arm much more toned looking. - Sarah Rhoads Photographers

18. Angle yourself. Balance your weight on your back foot and cross the other foot in front of the other in a T fashion. Pop a hip towards the camera but at an angle. This is universally appealing and slimming, especially when combined with hands on the hips. - Corey Ann Photography

See the Light

19. Natural light is your friend! Getting ready in a room with windows makes for great pictures. Not only is the light beautiful, it is also flattering and makes your skin look amazing. Opening the shades whenever you can will add a lot to the pictures in any situation. - Aves Photographic Design

20. Make sure your reception is well-lit. The best wedding receptions seen in magazines have lighting covering the dance floor and on the cakes and table arrangements. Consider hiring a lighting company to light your reception or ask the venue/band/DJ to light your reception for you. The pictures will be amazing and you won’t regret it! - Aves Photographic Design

21. Don’t let it get TOO dark during dancing. DJs and bands love a dark dance floor to entice people to get loose. Photographers, of course, want this too and want to get fun dance shots of the crowd, but we need a little light to focus on people. Ask the venue ahead of time not to turn off the lights entirely. Also, during your first dance, have spotlights! - Aves Photographic Design

22. Use spotlights. If you are planning a candlelight ceremony, be sure to have a spotlight shining on the area where you will be saying your vows. - Aves Photographic Design

23. Prevent the squinty look. If the sun is really bright, close your eyes and ask your photographer to let you know when s/he is going to take the picture. Open them when s/he tells you and that will eliminate the ‘squinty’ look. This also works if you typically wear glasses and do not want to wear them for portraits. - Corey Ann Photography

Love Yourself

24. Love yourself. After photographing hundreds of brides I can tell you that every single bride is beautiful on this day, regardless if they consider themselves plain, overweight etc. The transformation is always astounding. Accept it, believe it and be confident the camera will see it. - Steve Dohring, Photographer

25. Be happy. Happiness is beauty! - Susan Adler Photography

Article Credit: www.intimateweddings.com